Saturday, 14 March 2015

Good for you, not for me | The Small Desk

I watched an Essie Button video a while back where she reviewed Yes Please by Amy Poehler: I haven't read Amy's book and maybe I should, but a quote Essie read from the book stuck with me. As you can probably already guess from the title of this blog, the quote is: 'Good for you, not for me'.

I've been trying to remind myself of it recently. It can be hard when other people around you are succeeding or finding enjoyment from something you are not. The best thing about the quote is that you can relate it to anything and it helps you to feel and behave more positively to other people's successes or happiness.

For example, beauty bloggers are probably now the most successful bloggers. I could turn this blog into a beauty blog and would probably gain more readers or followers, however I just don't feel a connection to beauty products like other people do and I don't feel it is a passion or something I would enjoy writing about. Therefore it is better for me to enjoy reading them now and then, and appreciate that the people who write them are more passionate about this category than I am.

Another example might be how people plan or don't plan their lives. I struggle with the idea of wanting to live abroad at some point and I see how amazing the life of those who do this becomes, but I cannot get my head around not being close to my family and friends for more than a month! Although I do find it difficult to really believe myself when saying 'Good for you, not for me' on this subject.

One final example on how to use this phrase is in relationships. You may find yourself judging how quickly a couple ties the knot, take Cheryl Cole for example, another case of 'Good for you, not for me'. Everyone is different and everyone has different environmental and biological factors that make them the person they are.

To bring this blog post to a somewhat unintentionally intense close, I want to mention an article I read the other day called 'Top five regrets of the dying'. It is one of the Guardian's most read articles. One of the regrets is 'I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.' This gives incredible weight to the quote, 'Good for you, not for me'. I particularly like the last part of the Guardian quote, 'not the life others expected of me', this can be one of the easiest things to do, yet at the same time one of the hardest.

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